How to overcome the feeling of failure

Every day you check social media, you keep an eye on the success stories of so many people. Some succeeded in forming a family or a close-knit group of friends, others succeeded in achieving wealth, others reached a great scientific position, and there are those who have achieved success in the field of work. You are often overwhelmed by feelings of failure when observing success stories around you.

The truth is that half of these stories are not real and the other half are success after a long series of failed experiments. When a student fails an exam, a family breaks up, or someone fails to get the job they are applying for, they don't post this information on social media. No one ever wants to put a failed experiment in a frame for everyone to watch. We just seek to record our happy moments, even if they are very short.

In this article, we will take you through several stations to learn how you can overcome the feeling of failure and try again. Remember that when you succeed, it doesn't matter how many times you fall on the road, but the difference will be how many times you stood and tried a second time after a fall.

1- Do not believe that you are losers

There is no failed person, but there are failed experiments. Failure in a relationship or attempt in any field does not mean that you are a failure, it just means that that attempt was not successful. Giving in to the idea that you are losers is giving in to the idea that you don't have to try.

Remember that failed experiments are a step on the road to success, a lesson and preparation for what needs to be done to succeed. After a failed experience, you will find the way to know yourself and evaluate your relationships better, gain wisdom, think better, and try not to repeat the same mistakes. They are indeed painful experiences but they are necessary for growth and maturity Admit to yourself that you made a mistake or did not make enough effort or that it was not even your fault, analyze the situation and the steps you followed and put your hand on what you do not want to repeat

2. Do not listen to the criticism of others

Do you find that you are deeply influenced by the criticism of others? It is normal for others to have opinions that agree or disagree with your way of life and will express them on every possible occasion, do not let this stop you from trying. Sometimes others drop their fears on you, if someone feels that they can't reach something, they will probably try to convince you that you also can't implement it. Sometimes they even do it unconsciously.

Those who sincerely love us will support us and offer words of encouragement. They will advise sincerely but without reproach and bashing. Normal people know that experiences of failure are inevitable to succeed. So, surround yourself with people together who are not afraid to advise you sincerely but will encourage you to try again.

3- Get rid of obstacles

If your success is hindered by toxic relationships or aimless friends, review your relationships or you will return to making the same mistakes. If they are distracted by interests or habits that waste your time aimlessly, remove them from your daily routine and remember to replace them with healthy habits that can contribute to your success. Remember that emptiness is one of the enemies of success. In the face of every bad habit you uproot, you should start practicing a positive habit that can contribute to your success. If the obstacle to your success is an environment in which you work or are present, find a way to change that environment or avoid its impact on you.

4. Set actionable goals and a new plan

Take your time to accept feelings of loss and grief but don't stop at this point, start setting new goals. Make sure those goals are actionable and logical. Your first plan didn't work, you analyzed the reasons and now develop a new plan for success. Study the risk factors in your new plan to be prepared for any obstacles. If you decide to change your dream or plan completely with conviction, study your possibilities well and what you need for your new plan to succeed. Remember that this is a new beginning and start with enthusiasm and a decisive desire to succeed.