I stopped worrying forever. Here's how.

It's a simple way to shut your mind "My life has been full of terrible misfortunes that most of them have never happened." – Michel de Montaigne

I am the master of anxiety. But what if I told you, as someone with experience in anxiety, that there is a simple way to put a permanent end to your anxiety?

Anxiety, anxiety and anxiety

Excessive anxiety is the biggest barrier to living a happy life. When everything goes well, we worry about something wrong.

• When things go wrong, we worry they will get worse.

When things go wrong, we worry that they won't get better again.

When things improve, we worry that something will go wrong again.

Anxiety prevents you from enjoying the present. It causes fear and gets you into a state of inaction. I suffered from it a lot. I started worrying as a teenager. I stayed up at night, worried about my friendships, grades, and appearance. Later, other concerns were added to the list. Often, my disturbing thoughts have affected my behavior to the point that they have become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Maybe the same thing happens to you? You know what gloomy thoughts that lie heavily on your shoulders look like. I must have spent hundreds of hours worrying.

I spent days trapped in a frightened mind. I fell into a vicious circle of anxiety and fear of anxiety, and tried several "restorative measures", including:

• Mindfulness exercises

• Install anxiety time

• Write down things that cause anxiety

Let me save you time: none of them worked for me. If you're really worried, these "solutions" may not work.

Meditation, for example, provides space to intensify your anxiety. But hope is not lost I realized that I found many methods that were partially effective, but none of them proved effective enough for me. Fortunately, Dale Carnegie's book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living inspired me to develop a personalized anti-anxiety method that suits my needs. That's why I've modified, improved, and incorporated existing methods that I knew through extensive internet searches and Carnegie's book itself. The result of my efforts was that I came up with the final method that combines the positive characteristics of many different methods: method 1-2-3.

Say goodbye to anxiety

A Chinese proverb says, "You can't stop anxious birds from flying over your head, but you can stop them from building their nests in your hair."

Most of the solutions provided are temporary and should be repeated regularly — for example, a daily "time of anxiety." Method 1-2-3 is not. Stop worrying about a topic forever. One session, you will stop worrying for a long time. All you need is a pen, paper and about 20 minutes. The method is simple and straightforward. Method 1-2-3: Step by step Take a pen and a piece of paper now. There are three steps. For every issue you worry about, check this out. Choose one thing that worries you, for example, your social relationships

1. Write: "What worries me?"

• What exactly worries me?

• What specific things am I afraid to happen?

This can be quick or take a lot of time. Be as detailed and specific as possible. Sometimes, I write down three pages. But at other times, three points are enough. Once you feel like you haven't blocked anything, you're ready to move on.

2. Mark the following section: "Why am I concerned about it?"

This is usually the hardest part. Dive deep:

• Why exactly am I worried about these things happening?

• What is there to fear?

• How would I feel if these things happened?

• What are the consequences?

In most cases, typing this command is already useful. Knowing what's going to happen sets things right. But it doesn't solve the problem.

. Last section: "What can I do about it?"

"Anxiety is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere." – Irma Pompek

The problem with anxiety is that it paralyzes you. Treatment for anxiety is accepting what you can't do, and doing what you can do about it. There is always something you can do. You just have to know what concrete actions you can take. Once you start taking matters into your hands, a sense of power and control begins to emerge within you.

Here is an example to illustrate the whole process:

First, what worries me?

I'm worried that I won't enter the college of my dreams.

Secondly. Why am I worried about that?"

I sacrificed a lot, and I didn't apply to other schools, so I had to wait another year before starting university.

Thirdly. What can I do about it?

Nothing. I have submitted my order, and all I can do now is wait.

But there is something I can do: apply to other colleges. There are still some schools where the possibility of enrollment is still available Believe me, this method benefits I regret one thing about developing this method:

Doing it too late. I had problems that worried me for days. These disturbing thoughts distracted me so badly that my grades, friendships, and health were affected. I wandered around my room in endless circles, trying to silence my mind. I couldn't and luckily, this doesn't happen anymore. Ever since I learned the 1-2-3 method, I've been sitting every time a worrying thought bothers me. After following the three steps, my anxiety quickly disappears. I am free to continue my day as I wish! It feels great to relieve your mind from the heavy burden. I strongly advise you to try it yourself.