Between heart and mind: how to choose your partner wisely

When people look for someone to marry, they often feel torn between feelings and facts. Feelings push for strong attraction plus excitement, while the mind wants safety and clear reasons. A bond that lasts needs both sides to work together so the choice feels right but also also makes sense.

Feelings glue two people together - they build closeness, care and warmth. Yet those same feelings sometimes cause trouble as well as both partners must face the trouble side by side. If they see feelings as both help and risk, they stay alert or steer the bond with open eyes.

Clear thought keeps choices tied to real life. It does not kill feelings - it sets them inside a plan that looks years ahead. Clear thought stops a burst of feeling from yanking the bond off course.

To pick a mate, look first at shared values - truth, care and equal regard. Add shared dreams - work life, children, place to live - so both heads point the same way.

Steady feelings also a grown mind matter. Each person needs to name feelings, speak them, calm stress and choose after thought. Such balance feeds support next to helps both sides grow.

Partners fit when their values, views and daily acts match. Talk that is open plus kind and the power to feel the other's pain, keeps peace but also fixes fights, two things every long bond needs.

To weigh a bond, mix gut sense with cold review. Gut sense tells the plain truth - review sorts facts and shows hidden flaws. Both tools together give the nerve to choose with full sight.

In the end, to find a mate you do not pick heart over head or head over heart - you line them up. Love as well as clear thought, fed each day, forges a tie built on known minds, trust and one shared picture of tomorrow.