What Does It Feel Like to Be Loved?

I Just Want to Be Loved the Way I Love.

Recently, I came across a trending topic on TikTok where girls share posts about their conversations with their loved ones. It started with "No one can handle your words of affirmation," and the rest of the images left me in tears, realizing that people there are loved so profoundly, and some have an invincible kind of love. As someone whose primary love language is words of affirmation, I understand the power of words. Words can indeed touch me or hurt me effortlessly. This made me wonder: what did they do to deserve that? What did they lose for God to return something incredible to them? How much did it cost them to be loved that way? And how do I feel like a loved person?

Honestly. Entirely. I am not familiar with such emotions. I’ve forgotten when someone last loved me like this because most of the time, I am the one who loves.

I have been in relationships before, but never have I felt that butterfly-in-the-stomach feeling people often describe. This makes me think, was I really someone loved then? Or was it just one-sided excitement? Who didn’t truly reciprocate my feelings, but pitied me because I seemed desperate? In reality. I’ve had feelings for people. I say I love them. And every time, I was merely the one in love. But I have never been loved.

I am aware of the feelings of loving someone, but I am still searching for the feeling of being truly loved by someone.

Someone who adores you from head to toe. Someone who loves you for who you are. Someone who feels nothing but an overflowing love that they are ready to pour onto you at any moment. Someone who wants you. Someone who can’t imagine a future without you. Someone planning to spend their whole life and grow old with you.

As I see love, it’s something simple yet sacred. I believe love should not be given to someone randomly without wisely considering what I would do with it in the future. This is why talks about love go hand in hand with discussions about the future, at least for me. I once read that love means comfort. Therefore, one should feel safe and at ease with the people they love.

I Dream of the Same Thing Too.

When I imagine someone loving me, I hope they treat me much kinder than what life has thrown at me. Softer. Gentler and warmer. I wish to be loved in the gentlest way possible. I long for someone who asks how my day was in the midst of our short talks before bed. I dream of having someone who holds my hand in the crowd even if I’m not scared at all; just to ensure I'm still on their radar and they won’t lose me. I want someone to listen to my stories without judging, because I felt so much judgment as I narrate what happened in life without knowing what I hide behind that. I want ears disguised as a person. I want to come home after a tough day and be greeted with a warm hug and head pats. I want to be wrapped in their arms every night so bad dreams don’t haunt me anymore. I want to share what I've been through recently without fearing burdening them, knowing they’ve always been eager to hear what happened to me when we were apart. I want to be told that it’s possible to feel tired and lost with the reassurance that I won’t be lost alone because they’re always by my side. I want to hear all the simplicity in life that truly matters as long as we are together.

I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like I’m at home. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like the only person in the world. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like the center of the universe they live in. And I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like the only one who truly matters to them.

I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like I am not alone. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like part of something bigger than myself. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like part of their journey, dreams, and future. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a partner, not just a companion.

I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel worthy of love. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel worthy of affection. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a treasure, not just a possession. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a gift, not just a burden.

I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a work of art. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a masterpiece, not just a sketch. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a symphony, not just a single tune. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a poem, not just a single line.

I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like I am a home. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a sanctuary. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a refuge. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a place where I can be myself, without fear of judgment or rejection.

I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like part of their story. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a chapter in their book. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a verse in their poem. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like a note in their song.

I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like part of their future. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like part of their dreams. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like part of their aspirations. I want to be loved in a way that makes me feel like part of their tomorrow.

I just want to be loved in a way that makes me realize that I deserve it no matter what.

What Does Being Truly Loved Feel Like?

Do I feel all those beautiful things I imagined, or is it something entirely different? Maybe love isn’t just about the feelings we are about to experience, but about the actions one must take. It’s about showing up, being present, and willing to make the effort to make someone feel seen, heard, and loved. It’s about patience, understanding, and forgiveness. It’s about being ready to grow, learn, and evolve together. After all, love is not just a feeling. Love is a choice, a commitment, and a journey that requires effort, patience, and devotion. I always believe that tomorrow holds something brighter, and maybe I will finally find love the way I love.